Eleanor is officially a year old now. Crazy how fast that went. I’m not sure if it went so fast because I’m so tired, or maybe drinking all that coffee speed up time somehow? Who knows, but we are hear now. My last baby (I promise this time) is officially one.
Back in January 2016 when Mike and I found out that we would be expecting another baby, I did what any other expecting mother would do that needs to know what having a 4th baby is like … I asked a bunch of strangers from the internet to tell me. That’s how I ended up on the forum on BabyCenter.
While I was there, I thought that I’d share some blog posts to help others – and promote my blog for free. The site wasn’t a big fan of this free blog promoting. They told me to join the Facebook group, and try sharing there. A really nice way to say ‘You need to stop. Why don’t you go be this persons problem?’
Like any good BabyCenter member and shameless self-promoting blogger would do, I joined the Facebook group. Actually my first post to that group was this link to a list of all the free samples Canadian moms could get for their baby’s. Told you, I was shameless.
Even though I had been in Facebook groups with expecting parents before that turned out horribly, I had never been in one through BabyCenter before. So I decided to stay. Figured I’d sit in the background, maybe chime in and give some advice (I mean I was having my 4th baby, I should know SOMETHING useful about having a baby by now), and share my blog posts to gain some traffic.@TheEllenShow: Check out how this group of 200 mothers used their diversity to change lives. #BeKindToOneAnother #OctoberPumpkins2016 Click To Tweet
So that’s kinda what I did for the first couple months. And over those couple months, I noticed something amazing. All these women from different backgrounds, beliefs, experiences, were not only getting along but thriving from each other.
Life long friendships were forming. We started setting up mommy dates where we could meet up, and going out to events together. And even though we were technically meeting a strangers, it never felt like that. Any time I’ve ever met up with a group or person, it’s been like catching up with an old friend.
As our bellies grew, so did our connection to each other. And soon weren’t just sharing belly pictures and doctor appointments, we were sharing our lives. The good, the bad, and the ugly. The happy announcements, the not so happy announcements, and even family losses.
When it was time for the babies to make their appearance, we shared in the excitement. When there were complications and losses, we were there to share in the sorrow and healing. And we continue to be there for each other as the babies grow – and all the hardships and happiness that comes with that.
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For some of the women, this group is all they have. For others, it’s a welcome addition to our existing group of family. But ever single one of us is fully invested in this group. We are there for each other no matter what. We are family.
We have also come together to help those outside the group. We managed to raise money to donate to the SickKids hospital in Toronto, Ontario. It’s our way to share our love with others.
We want to show others what can happen when diversity becomes your strength. We want to show other mothers that their tribe, their family, can be online. We want to show others how amazing things happen when mother’s come together. So we have submitted to Ellen DeGeneres. If this story has touched you, please feel free to share it. Even if this never reaches Ellen, it could reach someone else that really needs it.