What Happens When Diversity Is Your Strength #BeKindToOneAnother

Eleanor is officially a year old now. Crazy how fast that went. I’m not sure if it went so fast because I’m so tired, or maybe drinking all that coffee speed up time somehow? Who knows, but we are hear now. My last baby (I promise this time) is officially one.

Back in January 2016 when Mike and I found out that we would be expecting another baby, I did what any other expecting mother would do that needs to know what having a 4th baby is like … I asked a bunch of strangers from the internet to tell me. That’s how I ended up on the forum on BabyCenter.

While I was there, I thought that I’d share some blog posts to help others – and promote my blog for free. The site wasn’t a big fan of this free blog promoting. They told me to join the Facebook group, and try sharing there. A really nice way to say ‘You need to stop. Why don’t you go be this persons problem?’

Like any good BabyCenter member and shameless self-promoting blogger would do, I joined the Facebook group. Actually my first post to that group was this link to a list of all the free samples Canadian moms could get for their baby’s. Told you, I was shameless.

Even though I had been in Facebook groups with expecting parents before that turned out horribly, I had never been in one through BabyCenter before. So I decided to stay. Figured I’d sit in the background, maybe chime in and give some advice (I mean I was having my 4th baby, I should know SOMETHING useful about having a baby by now), and share my blog posts to gain some traffic.

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So that’s kinda what I did for the first couple months. And over those couple months, I noticed something amazing. All these women from different backgrounds, beliefs, experiences, were not only getting along but thriving from each other.

I started to get more involved in the group – asking questions, answering questions, and just being here for the other women. And I realized that they were there for me too. These strangers who I’d never met before deeply cared for me and my family, and I deeply cared for them and their families.

Life long friendships were forming. We started setting up mommy dates where we could meet up, and going out to events together. And even though we were technically meeting a strangers, it never felt like that. Any time I’ve ever met up with a group or person, it’s been like catching up with an old friend.

  • At the taping of @TheGoods with these moms
  • Took a trip to Toronto to meet up with these moms
  • Met up at the mall to do some shopping with this mom <3

As our bellies grew, so did our connection to each other. And soon weren’t just sharing belly pictures and doctor appointments, we were sharing our lives. The good, the bad, and the ugly. The happy announcements, the not so happy announcements, and even family losses.

When it was time for the babies to make their appearance, we shared in the excitement. When there were complications and losses, we were there to share in the sorrow and healing. And we continue to be there for each other as the babies grow – and all the hardships and happiness that comes with that.

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For some of the women, this group is all they have. For others, it’s a welcome addition to our existing group of family. But ever single one of us is fully invested in this group. We are there for each other no matter what. We are family.

Even though we are all from different cultures, religions, family backgrounds … we have a genuine mutual respect for each other.  We know that these differences are not our weakness, but our strength. And we know that when mother’s come together to build each other up, lives are changed for the better. Love will always win over hate.

We have also come together to help those outside the group. We managed to raise money to donate to the SickKids hospital in Toronto, Ontario. It’s our way to share our love with others.

We want to show others what can happen when diversity becomes your strength. We want to show other mothers that their tribe, their family, can be online. We want to show others how amazing things happen when mother’s come together. So we have submitted to Ellen DeGeneres. If this story has touched you, please feel free to share it. Even if this never reaches Ellen, it could reach someone else that really needs it.

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14 comments

  1. Natalie Dickinson says:

    I’ve joined Facebook groups in the past and never really found one that I felt comfortable in so I set up my own! We have lots of lovely people and I’ve made some lovely online friends. Next month we’re all meeting up for dinner so I totally get what you’ve said in the post and I think it’s fab that social media can bring so many people from different backgrounds and culture together.

  2. Nina says:

    Facebook groups can be either really awesome or not so great. Threads can get out of control and people jump down each others throats. I don’t know if it’s because behind screens people can be a bit more harsh. However when a facebook group can be supportive, it’s great! I’m glad that you’ve found a good community through it.

  3. Angela Ricardo Bethea says:

    I think being a mom is such a great feeling ever. Those hardworking, and whatever we tired will lose in just one hug and one big smile of our loving children. I can;t wait for my upcoming baby. I am so excited.

  4. Sue Tanya McHorgh says:

    I really loved this post. Facebook groups … you can either love them or hate them. I love the supportive facebook groups, the ones that are really helpful and the ones with the positive people. Social media is a good thing. It really does bring different cultures together.

  5. Courtney says:

    I had such an amazing pregnancy due to the awesome people I met in a Craigslist message board. My daughter is 8 now and we’re still all friends and I’ve watched our kids grow up together. It’s crazy

  6. Utminh says:

    I see Facebook groups have a goal of it. Good or bad is because the participants know the meaning of it or not to develop together. I used to join the group and I found it really beneficial to me. I also think you are like me.

  7. Ana Ojha says:

    I’ve to admit that I met many amazing people from the Facebook community and they have become my virtual friends forever! If we don’t hear from one another throughout a week, we try to email each other! Thanks to the internet and social media for removing the social and cultural barriers!

  8. Elizabeth O says:

    Facebook groups can help us to grow and we can share our experiences like this. Like motherhood!! I used to join in the group where I found it really beneficial to me. and up to now, we are still friends.

  9. Shawna says:

    I especially love blogger engagement facebook groups because at first you really don’t have a choice but to be kind to them, regardless of the diversity amongst everyone. Fortunately, those people grow on you and that diversity has literally brought many people from every walk of life together. It’s amazing.

  10. Carole D says:

    I love that! Woman supporting woman! What a great group! My daughter was in a mother breastfeeding facebook group and it was a great experience for her.

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