Parents feel a lot of social pressures when it comes to how to raise their kids. Everything from how to feed their little ones to their babies sleeping patterns. With social media, I’d argue that the social pressure parents feel is exaggerated.
One of the areas I’m particularly feeling the pressure is with potty training. It seems the day your little one turns 2, the potty training questions come flooding in.
“Is she potty trained yet?”. Or; “How’s potty training going?” – as if they assume that you must have already started potty training.
Our 3rd, Jordan, is 2 and she is not potty trained.
Jordan is perfectly healthy and meeting all her milestones, but she’s just not potty trained yet.
And there is one simple reason why my 2-year-old isn’t potty trained.
She’s simply not ready. She’s really close to being ready, but not quite there.
There’s one simple reason why my 2-year-old isn’t potty trained. She’s simply not ready.
Are there toddlers that are ready and fully trained before 2? Absolutely. But there are also a lot of toddlers who are not ready until closer to 3.
Is not potty training by 2 really out of the ordinary? Taboo even?
Could I buckle down and potty train Jordan right now? Yes, I could. But I’ve been down that road before.
I’ve given into the social pressures to potty train my oldest before 2. It didn’t work out well. Not only was it a long and tedious process, but it was also stressful for her and I. It really impacted our relationship at the time. And it wasn’t until weeks upon weeks of training was she actually fully potty trained.
Along came baby #2, and I choose to take more of a laid-back approach to potty training. I waited much longer to potty train. It took less time and we weren’t stressed out with the process. I made sure she was 110% ready, and it was a much more natural process. After just a couple days, she was trained. It was simple and laid-back.
One of the biggest lessons I took away from potty training my older girls is: Don’t push it.
So I’ve taken the same simple and laid-back approach with Jordan. She’s almost 3 and not potty trained, and I’m okay with that. I don’t see why I should rush it if she’s not ready. So I don’t push it. I’m not waiting for her to do it herself, but I am waiting until she’s ready.
I’m sure she will be potty trained before school, and I am most definitely sure she will be potty trained before college.
Did you feel the social pressure to potty train before 2? Let me know in the comments below.
Is your little one ready to potty train? Check out these adorable pottys :
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