Now technically the Prime Minister of Canada’s wife does not have an official role or title, so some debate about her asking for help naturally sparked some political questions of my own: Who would be paying for this extra help? If the people of Canada paid for this second assistant, would we get a say in who was chosen? But instead of the political debate I expected; this plea for help was met with anger and frustration over the fact that she dare even ask for more help. I will admit, my personal political views aside, I am a little shocked by some reactions surrounding this situation.
Asking for any sort of help seems to be taboo in our culture. Almost like it’s a sign of some sort of weakness or neediness. Too often our reaction is that we know of or personally have it worse, and that the person asking for help needs to ‘suck it up’.
Every situation is different. and everyone handles situations differently. In situations, like someone asking for help, we should be reaching out and figuring out a plan to help. Instead most of the time we are more interested in harsh and judgy reactions.
In reality not everyone can do it all, and asking for help is not only sometimes necessary, but it is also okay. We can not do it all by ourselves all the time. It might not be a personal assistant, maybe it’s 10 minutes to collect yourself. By not asking for help, eventually we run ourselves into the ground. I know I have been guilty of not asking for help because the fear of being judged. And I have ran myself into the ground because of my fear. In the end, I suffered and the relationships around me suffered.
As a society, we need to put an end to the taboo of asking for help. Everyone should feel that asking for help is okay and sometimes necessary. No one can do it all. We can do so much more together then we could ever do alone. Instead of harsh personal reactions and judgments we need to support each other more. In a society where supporting and helping is the norm, everyone is better off.