Uggg… Valentine’s Day. My husband and I don’t really celebrate with anything special. For us is just an over glorified hallmark holiday that lays unrealistic exceptions on spouses everywhere. We more of less ignore the holiday, and instead opt into participating in acts of love to each other all year long.
Yep, we are grouchy Valentine’s Day haters. But we still allow our kids to hand out Valentine’s Day cards at school. Some years it’s and awesome Pinterest worthy craft, other times it’s just cards from Walmart that we bought the night before. And while it would be really easy to just say to our girls that we aren’t going to send cards to celebrate an over glorified hallmark holiday, we won’t. Instead we will be helping our girls scribble their names on over 40 Valentine’s Day cards (we opted into the Walmart box this year).
Why? Because we remember the excitement as a kid handing out and receiving these little cards and candies. We remember decorating these brown paper bags with our names and then watching them fill up with notes and treats from our fellow classmates. We remember digging through and eating too much candy, and opening every card. Every. Single. Card. We remember and cherish those memories, and we will let our kids do the same. Our girls will not be sitting down watching everyone share in the excitement because their parents are grouchy Valentine’s Day haters.
We will even be making cards for the classmates that they don’t always get along with. Because it’s important to show kindness to everyone. We teach our girls that they should be kind to all their peers, even the ones they are not friends with. You can not like or agree with someone, AND still be kind to them (take note trolls of the internet). We also teach our girls to be kind everyday, not just Valentines Day. We teach them that a little kindness can mean so much to someone who is sad or having a bad day. And we still hand out Valentine’s Day cards at school.
So, while my husband and I might not personally like Valentine’s Day, your kid will still be getting a card in their little paper bag. We will not allow our grouchiness over the holiday over shadow our kids excitement in handing out cards to their classmates, or their classmates excitement over getting a card – even if it’s just the Walmart kind.