Summer is in full swing, and sometimes with school out that can mean more sibling conflict.
Sibling conflict can drive the best parent crazy, and really put a damper on the summer fun.
I use to referee every single conflict that came up between our older girls. Our youngest is just 15 months, so not there’s not too much conflict with her sisters … yet.
I noticed being involved in every conflict they had made them both completely dependent on me to solve every problem and drove me crazy. Also, I couldn’t help but think how I wasn’t always going to be there to referee conflicts… They have activities and school. What would happen when conflict came up with their peers? I’m not going to be there to solve conflict for them. I knew they needed some tools so they knew how to deal with conflict with their peers … for their growth and my sanity.
After chatting with a teacher about how she taught conflict resolution in her classroom, I took those points and introduced them in our house.
First hubby and I sat them down and explained these new resolution strategies.
It was important for us to stress that we were still always here to talk to or ask for help. We didn’t want them to feel like we just didn’t care or that we weren’t going to help them. We will always be there to listen and help them anyway we can. These strategies are just a tool we gave them to use.
Now when there is conflict they need help working out I ask them what conflict resolutions they tried or maybe should try. I have printable version on a wall at their height as a reference for them. (You can grab a free printable of that HERE)
In the beginning it took reminders about the resolutions several times before I noticed them applying them all by themselves. But we have had great success with them in our house and I wanted share because you might have the same success in your house!
Conflict Resolution Strategies For Kids:
- Try talking it out
- Let the person know how you are feeling (ie: I feel …. )
- Share & take turns
- Ignore it
- Ask them to stop
- Step away to calm down
- Step away to go to another activity
- Ask for help
And one last note: Mrs. Taylor if you are reading this – Thank you for introducing them to me!
Will you be trying these out? Let me know if this works (or a different strategy) for your family below!